The Runner

Last night I went out with The Runner.  I had a few emails with him the last time I was on the site, but we never met up.  So we decided to meet up again.  He's another Buddhist that doesn't drink (for real).  I couldn't figure out why.  Is it religious or because he has an alky in the family (true).  I told him I did, and he didn't seem to have an issue with that.

We decided to meet at a Starbucks.  Then we would wing it if we wanted to.  His pictures weren't the most clear, but I took a chance.  He is by far the cutest guy I've met on here.  6'4" (my perfect height), big shoulders (he's very physically fit), shaved head.  I think brown eyes.  Italian and then some other stuff.  We wound up having coffee, then getting something to eat and then hopping into the mall quick.  He wanted suggestions on what to get his mom for Christmas (she celebrates, he does not).  I picked out Ugg Slippers.  Done and done.

There wasn't a mention of getting together again or not.  It was fun, but I don't think there was a love connection.  He's thinking of joining the Air Force.  Our lifestyles are so different, so I don't know. 

I would probably go out with him again, but I won't be bent out of shape if I don't hear from him again.

On to the next one!

Email of the day...

vmy name is chris and i like what i see & hear from ur profile. im in to all of the things that ur into.  i am a marine been in it 14yrs and a ufc figher for the same.  i just got back from kabul Afghan 2 weeks ago.  been single for 4 yrs.  now.  I broke up with her cause i was supposed to get married when i got back from IRAQ and when i was going home i found her in my bed fk... my bio-dad and she was pregnant.

He goes on to list his favorite color (blue), food (Italian & Mexican), Movies (Howard the Duck), him loving kids so I shouldn't have a problem with him (no where on my page does it say I have or want any), and his likes.

I'm Back

I have been kind of missing this blog. It's getting colder, and I'm getting bored so I decided to log into my trusty online dating account. I gave it slight upgrades. So I will continue to talk about my experience with that on my blog in addition to anything else that's on my mind including, but certainly not limited too, food, makeup, movies & TV. Feel free to chime in at any time! I hope to give this bad boy a new look (maybe even some pictures!) in the near future so you'll see some changes.

I will tell you now that pretty much the first person to contact me was Greekazoid. 3 emails. Asking if we could give it another go since we didn't nothing wrong to each other. I don't do crazy. I didn't respond. I hope he gets the hint!

I've been chatting (via email on the site) with two guys who I had actually started talking to last time I was on. Never met either one of them, but one is a Buddhist (I know, been there done that) and a runner with a large tattoo. The other is also Greek, but hopefully not crazy.

Also I did go out with the Teacher again, and he gave me the whillies.

The Teacher and The Farmer

I have some updating to do.

I just reread the blog and I can't believe how much time I wasted on the Greek.

And I think I'll be down in weight tomorrow even though I feel gross and bloated today.

And nothing ever happened again with friend's brother that I kissed some time ago. I saw him again a few weeks later (about a month ago) and we chatted for a minute but I was on his pay no mind list.

No biggie.

So I've been chatting back and forth with a few guys lately and it all came to a point where we decided to meet in person (one I've been ignoring and will have no mention here).

We'll start with Teacher, who is well, a teacher. He seemed fun and positive and all that good stuff. He looked tall, and thin which is my type, but with blond hair. But not bad looking. So we've been trying to get it together and were unsuccessful, but laughing about it. We finally decide to go for a drink on Monday at a local/casual bar near his house. Oh he's 35. He was definitely cuter in person. I'm not crazy attracted to him, but it's better than the complete unattraction I've had towards everyone else.

He talked a lot, but it was good because he had fun stories to tell. He loves his job which is nice to see, and is pretty successful (writing programs for a new school). He as a few siblings, and seems to have a decent social life. I had a bad headache at first so I was kind of quiet. I was worried I was giving a bad impression... plus he had all these great stories and I'm like WTF should I talk about. But I warmed up and it was fun. We had a couple of beers each (and sampled each others which I thought was nice). He insisted on paying which I thought was nice. There were some hints that we would go out again, but nothing was said outright.

He wound up texting me the next night saying we should go out again. No set plan. He's in Virginia on a class trip until tomorrow I think. So far he has the most promise. I think.

Now on to the Farmer. He is not actually a farmer, but his grandparents own one and he wants to live there. Imagine me living on a farm? LOL. He lives somewhere in the burbs (outside of my city might as well be foreign land). He drove to my hood which I thought was nice. We had some nice conversation outside of a bar. He seemed like a really nice guy. Not bad looking. Not as cute as in his pics (shaved head, but kind of balding and a cracked tooth - but not bad). He writes computer software and is really into motor cross. It was fun, but again no spark. No spark with Teacher either but at least I have a tiny bit of desire to go out with him again. He seems fun.

I know I said a second date was always good, but I'm tired. I don't know if I'll see Farmer again.

Hockey

Update: I had a few emails going back and forth with a really really cute guy. We exchanged facebooks and then I never heard from him again. He then deleted his account. So hopefully he met someone and I shouldn't take it personally! :(

Last night. Guess who's back. The Greek. Leave me alone! He emailed me asking how I was doing. I don't think I am going to respond.

Now on to the guy I will call Hockey. We had a few emails going back and forth. His pictures were not ugly, but he was nothing special. However, he seemed really nice.

We met up last Wednesday (the 6th) for dinner. Conversation was okay. He seemed sort of stiff. No attraction. We had a nice time though. After dinner we went to a restaurant that was across the street and had a drink. Then I bounced.

I wasn't going to go out with him again, but people said I should. So I did. He met me at this Mexican joint by my house last night. Again, we had an okay time. I still was not attracted to him, and I was kind of bored. With that being said I am not going to see him again. But how should I tell him. Email? I have a feeling he might call me. Blaaah.

So at the end of the day, I am glad I went out on date two. He was definitely more comfortable. The outcome is still the same, but it's a good idea to go for the second date. Unless they are creepy, disgusting or rude of course.

On that note I've been chatting with a teacher and another dude. We're supposed to meet up next week for a drink. We'll see how that goes!

The Break is Ova

So I've taken a little break from the crazies. This weekend I was bored and futzing around on my parent's computer and decided to log on. We'll see if I can line anything up in the next week or so... stay tuned.

Greekazoid

Guess who I heard from last night?

That's right, the Greek.

At 8:39 PM I got a text "Hey"

That was it.

I didn't write back. He's the one that said farewell to me. I don't need the dramz.

Plus, on Saturday night I kissed a boy and I liked it.

No number exchange or anything... there really was no opportunity. He's the brother of a friend. Which normally is a no no, but her and I aren't really friends. We share friends. Plus she effed my cousin last year so it evens out if I kiss her brother. Said friend lost her purse and the night was ruined. Brother drove us all home and I got a hand grab as I was exiting the vehicle. Not sure what will happen next. If anything.

Sigh.

Almost two whole days...

So it's almost been 2 whole days (we're probably coming up on 48 hours right now) since I've heard from the Greek.

I logged onto the dating site and lo and behold there is an email. All it says:

"this sucks...now that i have so much free time u r not going to be around....and its st patricks day tonight..."

Should I write back? I feel bad, but seriously he's crazy. Does he at least deserve an explanation?

Happy St. Patty's Day! I celebrated enough this past weekend. Taking it easy tonight.

No more Greek...

Ok so last Tuesday the Greek and I decided to meet up for drinks. We had chatted a bit via text message over the few days prior to the second date. Date one to date two was 6 days. I drive down and meet him at a bar in his neighborhood.

Order drinks (Heineken for him, Hoegarden for me). Sit at a little table in the front. Conversation went well.

At one point I got up and went to the ladies room. While I was there a woman who was part of a couple at the table next to us asked him if he was on [insert name of large dating sight here]. He says no. She asks about another less popular, kinky site. He says no. Then tells her the site he is actually on. She asked him if we met on there. He said no. Turns out that couple was on their first date from [insert name of big dating website].

Then the lady goes on to tell him that she's a psychic and can tell them I am really into him. First of all, that's weird. Second of all I wasn't that into him. I honestly probably act more interested in people than I am. And around people that I actually am interested in, I pretty much ignore them. Like the dude from work.

I digress.

I didn't think I was showing that much interest. In my mind I didn't see anything serious with this, but I was having fun. I thought it could be a fun casual thing.

We were there for a couple of hours. He walked me to my car and there was a little smooch. He wasn't a great kisser but he was far from bad. I didn't feel major sparks but I was smiling when I left. I took that as a good sign.

The next night, Wednesday, I went out to late dinner with my cousin. I told him I was going to do this. I also told him that I had friends coming to town this weekend and a all day event on Saturday and that I was babysitting my niece on Sunday. So E & I are out to dinner. Sitting at the bar waiting for my table when I get a text. I saved them all to write on here.

He says: I dont expect u to text me all the time...But I like being shown some interest 2...I know u wanna take it slow but I just wanna know how ur exactly taking this...Are we only gonna be talking whenever we hang out? Just curious...I really like u, I just wanna know whats up, thats all

Mind you this is less than 24 hours after we hung out.

I said

He said: Well we dont really...U dont have any messengers, u r always busy at work, even after work u dont text that much, i dunno...i hope it gets better thats all.

That really turned me off, but to prove a point the next day I texted him after work to say hi. Like hey whats going on kind of thing. I told him I was exhausted (true) and was going to make it an early night. So a few texts like that go back and forth.

About an hour after that he says: Is there anything else in ur mind ud like to tell me maybe? Just curious...

I said: Like what?

He said: Anything really... I just wanna hear from u, like ur news, whatever is going on... Unless u dont want to. I care, that's all. Ur too quiet, r u always like that or do you expect me to fuck up just like the other guys and ur keeping ur distance? Then again if im annoying u, u should tell me that too.

Are you readers annoyed yet? Because I am!

I said something like I had work today, then I made dinner and last night I went out with E and we had a nice time.

He said: I really dont want a full report of ur day, ur missing the point. Anyway, im not rushing either, it just seems like ur forced to say hi sometime, like that u have to.

I said something to the effect that he can't make me feel bad if I don't text him all the time. I have no privacy at work and can't be texting all the time.

Im not trying to make u feel bad at all, just trying to figure out how to work this and go with your pace i guess.

I said something like I can't win. He gives me crap if I do text him or if I dont.

Lol nvm, im not getting anywhere. Disregard all this. If you only knew how much I like you.

End of that conversation.

When we were out he asked if I could see him this Friday. I couldn't give him a definite answer because I had friends coming and I wasn't sure when. I didn't want to leave him hanging on a weekend. Friday he text messages me like I thought I was going to see you. Ugh. I said misunderstanding. He said ok don't drink and drive. So I guess he wasn't mad.

Saturday night, just after midnight I get a text: So since u havent said hi all day, hello.

I don't respond, I'm out. At this point I had been drinking for 12 hours.

Yesterday, Sunday he calls me at 4:55 PM. I don't answer for 2 reasons. One being that I am babysitting and the other that I don't want to talk to him. No message. At 5:06 PM I get a text: Hey...I wish u good luck with everything...Maybe were looking for diff things...I would at least appreciate a text or something...I know u r busy with ur friends and all, i am too... But yea, maybe down the road would be different..Take care.

6:07 PM: U have nothing to say? That was easy.

6:26 PM I say: It looks like we're on different wave lengths. I'm sorry this isn't going to work out.

THE END

PS: I'm not rereading this now because it gives me a headache so I apologize for bad grammar and typos.

Question: Do you think this is the last time I am going to hear from him?

To answer your questions....

A little bit, but I'm trying to just relax. I think I could kiss him.

The goomba lives in your hood.

He works at a university in an office. He's studying there for his masters (graduating this year) and will work full time upon getting his diploma. He lives with his bro & future sister in law (they foot the bill while he's in school). He's 26. His parents moved back to Greece 5 months ago. No kids. 6'1".

Not sure about next time. Meaning where.

Hug hello and goodbye.

He wore, jeans, shoes, casual button down, casual jacket (but dressy), he was dressed up and casual at the same time if that makes sense. And a messenger bag. And he smelled really nice!

Third guy's a...?

So... last night I finally met up with the Greek at a coffee shop near where he lives. It's actually not too far away from me. No traffic, about 10 minutes. He was going to study afterwards so it just made sense.


I had to work late and missed yoga, so I wasn't too gross (just normal gross), but was able to go home and eat dinner so that worked out.



He was standing outside the place when I got there. Very cute! Cuter than in the pictures. I was a little frazzled at first because there was some weirdo guy I felt like wasn't sharing the sidewalk properly. Plus I had on huge heels and was afraid I would slip and eat the floor.


So we go in an order (he gets a white mocha, a cappuccino for myself). And sit down. It was like where do you want to sit? I don't care where do YOU want to sit?

So we sit and it's a cute little place, small, not crowded it all. Conversation was really good. A few slow parts, but that's to be expected. I felt really comfortable around him and not like a stranger. Like some people are socially awkward and that's why they sign up for Internet dating, but he didn't seem that type (like me). He was cute, fun, funny, smart, goofy. He reminded me a little bit of a certain Goobma I used to work with. Not in the looks area, but certain silly mannerisms.

We decided to go out again on Tuesday. So nothing crazy to report back, but I think that's a good thing. Afterwards he texted me that he had fun and thought I was great and so pretty. I just hope he doesn't come on too strong because you know how I am!

Weigh-In

Last night marked the end of week one (plus a day) of Weight Watchers.

Down 3.2 pounds. It also brought me into another weight bracket. For example if I weighed 132 pounds (I don't) and lost 3, I would now be in the 120s at 129.

So I lose a point, but who cares! If I can loose these 8 pounds I will be in a weight category that I haven't been in in ages. Maybe since Vegas 2005.

Looks like tomorrow is the day...

To meet the Greek!

He said that next Tuesday would work for me. I said it would work for me too. Then he asked if I had time tonight to meet for a quick coffee. I said no. Even though I do. Well not really.

He asked tomorrow if I had a little bit of time. I said that I have yoga until 6:30. So I'm going to meet him after yoga. Problem is I could be a little gross. How do I go from my original first date attire of a dress and heels to sweatpants and a pony tail? I gave him the heads up and he doesn't care, but weird right?

What can I do at work to prep myself? Wash my face and reapply light makeup... brush hair into nice pony instead of the rat's nest it usually looks like after working out... pin bangs back... is that all I can do?

First Time For Everything

So last night marked my first "intimate encounter" request.

Do you know you can mark your account to block people from contacting you if they've previously contacted someone else for sex only? Well you can, and I did, because really that's not what I'm looking for. But some people, understandably, are.

So he emailed me asking if I would like to get together to just fool around. Or is it not my thing?

I'm 50% grossed out and 50% flattered.

Ugh, The Greek

So I just got a voice mail from the Greek. And he didn't sound at all what I thought he would sound like, and I don't know why because he sounded exactly like a Greek.

Basically what he said is that he can't do tonight either! And he was all "you're going to kill me." He said that it's getting close to his quarter end (the school he goes to has quarters, not semesters) and he's getting really bombarded with work. He said he understands if I want to forget it, but he would really like to continue talking to me and getting to know me, but it will probably be like this for a few weeks.

What do I do?

And do you get notified when I also comment on your comments?

PS: I'm seriously editing my last post because there is WAY too much info on there for me to risk someone here reading it since we all sit on top of each other.

What to Wear

So tonight is the night for the Greek. I'm having a terrible hair day. I woke up late and forgot to go to the gym. This will save me time from reshowering later since I kind of just let my hair do it's own thing on gym days. And let me tell you; it's not cute.

I might have to pin the bangs back. PLUS I painted my nails last night and I got sheet marks on my right hand. Cute.

So tonight I am wearing my trusty first date purple dress. I can't tell you how many uses I've gotten out of this thing. It was $23 at Charlotte Russe and I've worn it probably 10 times. Maybe one day I'll get a second date dress lol.

Anywho, this is not about tonight. This is about a party I am going to in a couple of weeks.

I was invited by someone at work, and I'm going. My two bffs happen to be in town that weekend and will be joining me, as well as a few other coworkers. What would one wear to that? Daytime drinking (could be cold, or warm out), walking around, Irish themed, need to look cute.

Thoughts on the Greek

We've been emailing each other back and forth for a few days (minus today of course). Just back and forth getting to know you questions. Nothing crazy.

But then yesterday he sends me a picture of him with no shirt on. Why is that necessary?? I mean I'm a believer in if you have it, flaunt it (and he DOES have it) but it turns me off (did I really just type that?).

I hope he's not a weirdo. There has to be normal, regular guys on there right? He told me he was looking forward to tomorrow and that he will look hot for me. WTF. I'm chalking this one up to him being foreign. Even though my college boyfriend, S, was Greek and he was pretty crappy.

PS: I made it through one day of WW sticking within my points range. Tonight going out for Mexican so I'm not eating much. Plus it's Ash Wednesday and I shouldn't be eating at all.

No More Emails

Today marks the day that work took away all of our outside emails. Tear. I feel like I'm missing a limb without my gmail.

I'm surprised this still works.

So if anything exciting happens, email me at work!

The Greek

So the Greek cancelled on me tonight. Well, rescheduled for Thursday due to school. Which is fine. He's almost done with his Master's and said he got slammed with a lot of work for a school project.

Then he came back and said he wasn't meeting his group until 8 if I wanted to meet for one drink for an hour. I said no dice.

So Thursday it is.

Tonight is Fat Tuesday and I have a wonderful evening of food shopping and laundry to look forward to. What a life...

Weight Watchers

So I thought that I would also blog about my weight loss journey. I joined Weight Watchers in June. I start my New Year's resolution on my birthday, which is my new year, and it was to work on my fitness. I did really well and lost about 10 pounds. Then the summer got the best of me and I fell off the wagon. Surprise, surprise.

So I've been toying with the idea of going back because it did work for me. Last night I went back. I gained back 8 of the 10 pounds which is pretty terrible, but I'm starting over. From scratch. I have been eating really poorly and not working out religiously.

We'll see how it goes.

Today is day one. Maybe having to post about it will help me hold myself accountable.

Going out tonight with the Greek. I suggested drinks that way I could eat before and not have to worry too much about points. Oye.

Date Two: Buddha

I was contacted by a very attractive guy. When I checked his profile I saw two things that were a previous automatic deal breaker) Doesn't drink and C) has a child. He was also a Buddhist which I thought was interesting.



I thought about the kid thing. You can have a kid and really let it mess you up or you can rise above that and become a really great person. I look at my uncle who was a single father studying for his CPA with a 2 year old. And I think he's wonderful.


Plus this guy was cute which is the real reason. And I thought that because he was Buddhist that didn't drink it was totally outside my element. Part of this escapade is to meet new people and see new things.



Imagine my surprise when he emailed me asking to go for a drink at a local Brewery. I asked him about it and he said he very rarely drinks and says no to ward off the party girls. Uh oh. I'm not a party girl but I do love me a good time.

So we meet. He's there first by minutes. He's pretty cute. Not as cute as I anticipated, and certainly not as tall as he stated. He said 5'9" which is my absolute minimum (thats the only thing I will not let go of). I seemed a smidge taller than him with smallish (for my standards) heels. Which means he was probably a smidge taller than me, but I don't think so.

We had a lot of laughs and a lot of fun over a few beers. I think I really wanted to like him because he was so different: the kid, Buddhism, not drinking, yogi, no tv, things like that. We were there for a few hours and I think he even got tipsy. He had a bunch of tattoos (covered) and two nose rings (ones hidden).

He paid and walked me to my car (what a gentleman!). Hug. Go home. Debated whether or not I wanted to see him again. No spark. But interesting. I thought about emailing him just to say thanks again. But he beat me to the punch.

He wrote me a really sweet email. He had a great time and was surprised at how well we got a long. He said he made a "love connection" with someone else that weekend. He said he was pretty confident I wouldn't be on the site much longer because I'm so wonderful. So 0 for 2. I'm okay with it.

My third date is tomorrow with the Greek. Stay tuned!

Date One: Foot Boy

My first date was with a boy I not so lovingly refer to as Foot Boy. He contacted me via Instant Message one night. We had a few exchanges back and forth and he seemed nice enough. I called him on my way to NY one night and we chatted for about 30 min. The conversation went well. He seemed nice enough, but he did mention that he liked the fact that I wore red nailpolish (he noticed this is one of my pictures).

We made plans to go to dinner the following Tuesday in a place that is sort of in the middle of where we each live (he's in the 'burbs).

He met me outside. I was unsure how to great him. In NY everyone kisses on the cheek. Here people hug which I think is awkward. Well, we hugegd, and it was fine. We went in. Place was nice, not too crowded, great waiter. Ordered drinks (wine for me, beer for him) and an appitizer. Conversation went well. He talked with his hand covering his mouth so it was hard at times to hear what he was saying. We laughed a lot. I asked myself if I wanted to kiss him, and the answer was no. He asked if I wanted to go to the movies after dinner and I said no. He walked me to my car. Hug. Left.

I thought I would go out with him again because we had fun. Maybe I need more time to feel a spark.

The day after he texted me something about my nail polish (he had previously commented that he liked the fact I wore red nail polish from seeing my hands in one of my pictures) and seeing my feet. And I ignored it.

The day after that he texted me again last night saying hi and I was all "hey whats going on." He said that he thought I was ignoring him before. I said well I don't like feet. Then he asked if his foot fetish would be a problem for me becuase even though I dont like feet I'd get lots of foot rubs. Then I said that I actually hate feet (true) and don't even like when people touch mine (also true, except for my pedicurist).

He said (and I'm going directly to my text messages for direct quotes) "So u are saying I'd be the exception? ;-) honestly my 3 biggest turn ons in a girl are a girl with cute feet, pretty smile and I have to admit I'm a boobs guy... You seem to have the other 2 covered!" Then I didn't say anything because honestly who says that?!?

Ten minutes later I get "I'm sorry am I being too honest?" And I wrote that honesty is good but it was just a lot of information. Then 2 hours later he wrote oh ok. At 2:30 that morning he writes "I was just telling you what I liked physically because after hanging out with u I already know that you are my type mentally. I think you are a total sweetheart... Believe it or not that meant alot to me that u offered to pay your half for dinner. Not many girls do that." The best thing he said to me was that I looked exactly like I do in pictures which was nice because I always think I look so much better in pictures than in person.

I debated it and decided I wasn't going to go for round two. I listened to the advice that guys sometimes say inappropriate things, but it just put me off. And the boob thing. Wasn't into it. So I emailed him and said that I had a great time, it was very nice & generous of him to pay for my share of dinner, but that I didn't think it would go past the friends feeling.

He wrote back that he felt the same way. Shrug.

Are awkward emails worse than awkward silence?

I have to say this online dating thing is very awkward. I really don't know what to say. So far it's mostly been people emailing me. If I don't think they look like butt, I write back to them. I hate those corny questions like "what do you do for fun?" or "what are your hobbies?" But if I don't ask those what am I supposed to ask.

And what if I see someone's profile that makes me laugh, and I think is handsome. What's a good way to lead off? What's a good way to keep the "conversation" going?

Online Dating

I decided to try online dating for a few reasons.

1. I was bored.

2. A friend poked fun at another friend for doing it even though she's having success.

Ok so really it was just those two.

A few weeks ago a friend was visiting me for the weekend. We were sitting around just catching up when we decided to take the plunge and make my online dating profile. If I was by myself I wouldn't have not gotten past my user name or tag line. Thanks Meep!

Immediately the pings starting coming in. It was a little ridiculous and pretty overwhelming, but I noticed some cute faces on there! Maybe this won't be so bad...

The internet has a bad stigma attached to it. I still think that if I were to meet a forever friend on here I would be embarassed to say we met on a dating website. I don't know why. I know some pretty fabulous people that have met their significant others on these types of sites. I'm really just doing this for fun. Also to meet new people in my new city, and seeing different parts of it.